LADIES- TRUTHS TO KNOW


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After my earlier post on GUYS- TRUTHS TO KNOW, so many beautiful comments and remarks came in and above all some honest criticism followed like” you are biased by leaving the guys section out”. So now ladies these are a few truth we have to know so that we do not end up cursing no one but ourselves. Men bow to Respect, Loyalty and Care.

A girl who does not fear God will hardly be his pick when he finally decides is isle time. To them it goes beyond beauty and brains. He needs to be sure that his investment won’t be reinvested in a wrong place (lol)

A ladies worth is more in her character than her appearance. Before you start quoting wrong, please look good, dress good, smell good, put the right make it but be sure to know that it goes beyond the physical. It’s not like as it’s popularly said that they look for their mama in you, no; they just need to know that you know loyalty, tenacity and will teach the kids right morals.

A lady who cannot cook, clean and handle basic domestic chaos is not even on the list of possible winners. Call it 14th century or 21st; the belly power stands out. No one is asking you to be “master chef” or spring cleaning expert. You won’t want to blame Delilah for taking care of the man you ought to have handled right.

A lady who is too swallowed up in “miss independent” disqualifies herself. It is good to work and be able to handle stuffs but men are providers. No man rich or poor, fat or slim, tall or short will let the part of his ego be trample because you are a career woman and financially viable. Everything has its place. Men Pursue, Provide and Protect. Take this away from them and you will not be the one; can never I beg to say.

A lady who doesn’t know how to pamper her man, well you know what they say; all men are big babies. Like us they need affection. They need some tender loving. I didn’t say you should start doing to bfs what is done to husbands but in all pampering has its place in all. Do not be all “Margret Tachery” and needy like they too do not have needs. No man likes to be nagged at.

A lady who cannot comprehend that men love their mothers and will somewhat want a piece of that in their wife doesn’t imply that they need you bossing down their throats and acting all control freak. Let them have their space and they will make adequate room for you J

Men are not only after beauty but brains. A lazy woman who thinks a man should be her sponsor is in for a loss. Ladies get working. Do not see him as a solely a provider and you the eater be a contributor.

It’s not compatibility but suitability.

Let me know what you think?

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Six Tips To Be At Peace In Your Singleness


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We are in a generation of boo and bae and so you who is in a relationship if your focus is not right might begin to feel left out and possibly unloved but that should not be the case. You can still be happy and enjoy life even without a boo or bae. They do not validate who you are. Having a man or woman in your life is not what stops you from being lonely. I know very many lonely boo’s and bae’s lol. Being single doesn’t mean lonely and also being single is not a defect. Do not yourself lose your peace or let anyone make you feel depressed

These are just a few tips to stay in peace in your single state

  1. Stay your heart on God ( Isa 26:3)
  2. Seek out His promises and stay on them bearing in mind Abraham, Hannah and many others who saw promises fulfilled
  3. Spend your time empowering yourself and developing your skills and talents. Use this stage to discover your purpose and pursue it
  4. Take away the time factor and unnecessary comparisons with others. Your life is on a different calendar from that of others
  5. Stop the obsession with marriage. Marriage is not a do or die affair and not everyone might end up being married
  6. Take away the age factor. It is not about doing things early but doing them right

 

Peace makes us receive more than worry. Your better half is on the way so stay in peace.

How To Be Found By Yours- 5


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Getting found is a process. Patience is needed for the process to be materialized as well as established. In as much as the man has to do the finding, the lady has to ensure she is adequately positioned. If interest and attraction already in place, check to see that your priorities in place and more so it won’t hurt to do some compatibility checks.

  1. Spiritual Compatibility  (Amos 3:3)
  2. Financial Compatibility ( Heb 13:5, Matt6:24 , Prov 17:16)
  3. Character Compatibility (Prov 22:24)
  4. Emotional Compatibility (Prov 27:17)
  5. Communication Compatibility ( Eph 4:26, Prov 18:13)
  6. Physical Compatibility (1 Pet 3:3-4, Gen 24:16, Gen 29:17, I sam 16:12, Est 2:7)

Yes compatibility checks. This will help you know if you have found yours or the finding process needs to continue. All categories must not be 100% but which ever you choose to make prime, it should be based on the purpose you believe you are here on earth to fulfill. Hope the list helps

How To Be Found By Yours- 4


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Personally i love love. So do not get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing. Does that mean we should go about worrying about love and who will love us or who we will love? Well no. Love is seeking (purposefully) not worrying. Seeking to be and do things right and in perspective. Marriage is for eternity and is meant to bring glory to The marriage Creator. This brings me to my 4th Tip Continue reading

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours – 3


 

quotes-Until-you-do-what-isNow onto our 3rd tip on how to be found by yours

Tip 3 : Get Working

Yes I know you already have a job or are in the process of getting one. However, that is not what I mean. Begin working on yourself both on your in-looks and out-looks. You must be pleasantly admirable. We do marry humans not spirits… so work on both the physical you and the spirit you. Work on your potentials.Put your priorities in order.

Take this single season to grow yourself into the best of you that you can be because when married you will be occupied by many new things and you need to be in a state to attract what whom you desire

A wise man once said that “until you do the right thing, your rights will not be given to you” so get working so you can attract what will make for your glorious destiny

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours- 2


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Your want to be found be yours, my next tip

Tip 2: Be Content

This is not to say get sloppy or lose interest but celebrate this stage of singleness knowing that chance and time happens to all. If you keep wishing you were in a relationship or married, you will miss out on the fun of this stage and the learning you need to, do that will prepare you for the next of your life.

Life is in stages. Some people maybe ahead of you at one stage or another, it doesn’t mean your turn will not come. Creation was purposefully made so celebrate where you are now and look forward to where you will be soonest not from the eyes of desperation but from a place of confidence and worth.

Hope tip 1 was helpful. Stay blessed