How To Be Found By Yours- 5


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Getting found is a process. Patience is needed for the process to be materialized as well as established. In as much as the man has to do the finding, the lady has to ensure she is adequately positioned. If interest and attraction already in place, check to see that your priorities in place and more so it won’t hurt to do some compatibility checks.

  1. Spiritual Compatibility  (Amos 3:3)
  2. Financial Compatibility ( Heb 13:5, Matt6:24 , Prov 17:16)
  3. Character Compatibility (Prov 22:24)
  4. Emotional Compatibility (Prov 27:17)
  5. Communication Compatibility ( Eph 4:26, Prov 18:13)
  6. Physical Compatibility (1 Pet 3:3-4, Gen 24:16, Gen 29:17, I sam 16:12, Est 2:7)

Yes compatibility checks. This will help you know if you have found yours or the finding process needs to continue. All categories must not be 100% but which ever you choose to make prime, it should be based on the purpose you believe you are here on earth to fulfill. Hope the list helps

How To Be Found By Yours- 4


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Personally i love love. So do not get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing. Does that mean we should go about worrying about love and who will love us or who we will love? Well no. Love is seeking (purposefully) not worrying. Seeking to be and do things right and in perspective. Marriage is for eternity and is meant to bring glory to The marriage Creator. This brings me to my 4th Tip Continue reading

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours – 3


 

quotes-Until-you-do-what-isNow onto our 3rd tip on how to be found by yours

Tip 3 : Get Working

Yes I know you already have a job or are in the process of getting one. However, that is not what I mean. Begin working on yourself both on your in-looks and out-looks. You must be pleasantly admirable. We do marry humans not spirits… so work on both the physical you and the spirit you. Work on your potentials.Put your priorities in order.

Take this single season to grow yourself into the best of you that you can be because when married you will be occupied by many new things and you need to be in a state to attract what whom you desire

A wise man once said that “until you do the right thing, your rights will not be given to you” so get working so you can attract what will make for your glorious destiny

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours – 1


 

quotes-Being-Alone-Doesn-t-.jpgThe relationship world is one of the busiest of all in this age and time. Most people are in love relationship, others are in a benefit relationships, others marriage in relationships. Yet more are longing to find their own partners to settle down. So here is the foundation of this series.

Tip 1:

Be Truly Alone

Most people want to settle down but they are already settled and yet hope to be found. Be truly alone and the one will find you. If you are occupied then you are not available for the one to find you. Be single and you will be found. Playing games only makes you stupid ; self deceit is the worst of all deceit. Stop dragging around unnecessary relationships. Be honest to yourself and make room for what you want, desire and deserve and you will get the best…

Just my thought….what do you think?

Long Distance Relationship: An Escape Route From Pre-marital Sex


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Relationships are the best thing in this life. It could be with God, parents, children, husband, wife, friends, cousins and the list is endless. However today , I want to share mine which was an emotional one where all sorts of butterfly feelings interplay and most often demands made.1447178261905[1] (1)

Love is a beautiful thing. I love love. I had the notion before getting to the Uni that the first man I will love will be my husband so I prayed that it be so. No it wasn’t the case. I got my heart broken because I never really knew what the world had define a love relationship between a boy and a girl. The world had so fixed the sequence in a way that, once the guy makes his intention known and the lady says yes.. the first few weeks and in a few cases months, then the next big thing is SEX and more sex as long as the relationship last till you get to the next one and the sequence replays itself.

That is not what I was educated to accept and with the love of God shared in my heart that is not the part I was to go. I am supposed to keep my body till marriage and freely surrender to my husband. The more you said no the sex after prolonged kissing trails, you are looked at as mean and not considerate. So what is there to do but pray for a better option that will not hurt you once you say no to SEX. That was how I got into my first long distance relationship.

Now see the logic. My partner will not be physically around so no demands of sex will be made and i won’t have to turn down the demand and end up heart broken. There will be no physical kissing and the likes. Again this is not to say that long distance relationships do not have their own sin packages. Yes sin package as it demands will move from demanding long calls, snoopy lifestyle to nude pictures and skype stripping and more and if those too turned down… you find yourself at the same spot.

The point I want to leave us with is this. Let love be genuine and never compromise  your beliefs for temporary pleasures. Also do not settle for a convenient relationship but go for someone that values you and your principles and at the center of your love affair should be God and his ways. It is not about a guy in church as from my experience those are the ones that encourage you to fornicate with your eyes wide open under the umbrella of grace. Grace is not sloppy. Do not use long distance relationships as an escape from pre-marital sex because if you will not have sex physically , I am telling you if your foundation in God is not solid you will have phone sex and every other kind of social media relationship perversion.

Go for a relationship that adds to you and not one which subtracts from you. Loving God in this age and time is not easy both for young Christian gents and ladies but I am more thankful that we have the Holy Ghost and with Him we can run through a troop and leap over walls.

What is your take on long distance relationships?

 

Comfortable Being Single


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I got so comfortable being single that a failed to respond to love or welcome it’s coming. Singleness is not a defect or something to shun. It’s phase and like every other thing it too will pass. But we Christian singles have to know where to strike a balance.

It’s phase and like every other thing it too will pass

Miss independent has so crept in that it battles our very command to be submissive. I am no longer a victim but I was a victim playing “I CAN HANDLE MYSELF”. I discovered I was “putting God on a hot seat”, praying for my own man yet not making room for any man both by my ways and actions.. actions more.

Being single yet not truly single

Our confused state can’t confuse God. Do not invest in prayers and disregard the answers yet by yourself. Sometimes we claim to be single yet we aren’t truly single because we are playing a “waiting to hear from God “ with plenty men on the line so that when we decide that being single is no longer what we want to be called, we can pick from the many. God can’t be mocked . What we sow, we reap.

Take Home: It is fine to celebrate God in our single state and be comfortable being single but let’s also know when it’s time to embrace answers to our prayers. God doesn’t work across purposes. Let us clean house for real and be ready to receive His best when it comes to us

Much love