After my earlier post on GUYS- TRUTHS TO KNOW, so many beautiful comments and remarks came in and above all some honest criticism followed like” you are biased by leaving the guys section out”. So now ladies these are a few truth we have to know so that we do not end up cursing no one but ourselves. Men bow to Respect, Loyalty and Care.
A girl who does not fear God will hardly be his pick when he finally decides is isle time. To them it goes beyond beauty and brains. He needs to be sure that his investment won’t be reinvested in a wrong place (lol)
A ladies worth is more in her character than her appearance. Before you start quoting wrong, please look good, dress good, smell good, put the right make it but be sure to know that it goes beyond the physical. It’s not like as it’s popularly said that they look for their mama in you, no; they just need to know that you know loyalty, tenacity and will teach the kids right morals.
A lady who cannot cook, clean and handle basic domestic chaos is not even on the list of possible winners. Call it 14th century or 21st; the belly power stands out. No one is asking you to be “master chef” or spring cleaning expert. You won’t want to blame Delilah for taking care of the man you ought to have handled right.
A lady who is too swallowed up in “miss independent” disqualifies herself. It is good to work and be able to handle stuffs but men are providers. No man rich or poor, fat or slim, tall or short will let the part of his ego be trample because you are a career woman and financially viable. Everything has its place. Men Pursue, Provide and Protect. Take this away from them and you will not be the one; can never I beg to say.
A lady who doesn’t know how to pamper her man, well you know what they say; all men are big babies. Like us they need affection. They need some tender loving. I didn’t say you should start doing to bfs what is done to husbands but in all pampering has its place in all. Do not be all “Margret Tachery” and needy like they too do not have needs. No man likes to be nagged at.
A lady who cannot comprehend that men love their mothers and will somewhat want a piece of that in their wife doesn’t imply that they need you bossing down their throats and acting all control freak. Let them have their space and they will make adequate room for you J
Men are not only after beauty but brains. A lazy woman who thinks a man should be her sponsor is in for a loss. Ladies get working. Do not see him as a solely a provider and you the eater be a contributor.
It’s not compatibility but suitability.
Let me know what you think?
We are in a generation of boo and bae and so you who is in a relationship if your focus is not right might begin to feel left out and possibly unloved but that should not be the case. You can still be happy and enjoy life even without a boo or bae. They do not validate who you are. Having a man or woman in your life is not what stops you from being lonely. I know very many lonely boo’s and bae’s lol. Being single doesn’t mean lonely and also being single is not a defect. Do not yourself lose your peace or let anyone make you feel depressed
These are just a few tips to stay in peace in your single state
- Stay your heart on God ( Isa 26:3)
- Seek out His promises and stay on them bearing in mind Abraham, Hannah and many others who saw promises fulfilled
- Spend your time empowering yourself and developing your skills and talents. Use this stage to discover your purpose and pursue it
- Take away the time factor and unnecessary comparisons with others. Your life is on a different calendar from that of others
- Stop the obsession with marriage. Marriage is not a do or die affair and not everyone might end up being married
- Take away the age factor. It is not about doing things early but doing them right
Peace makes us receive more than worry. Your better half is on the way so stay in peace.
We miss it sometimes and that is totally okay so long as lessons are learnt.
I sensed that something great was coming my way. You know how they often say trust your intuition, it was beyond that. I sensed it in my spirit and other close friends even mentioned so. We met on a “God” platform. Every single thing and word seemed to fit ( deja vu). Was it really so?
I got carried away with “God” talk and so too the familiarity with scripture quote. The talks and chats felt so great that i saw a future that brought heaven to earth and streamed many to His presence. We talked about the past in a way that only makes a sister see an understanding future. Now hands up to that single christian sister who doesn’t want a #word and understanding man on her list. lol.
Now I began to feel like i should keep this a secret even from myself so that naysayers and monitoring spirits don’t pry and spoil a powerful hell wrecking God-glory bringing union. I was so wrong. He helped me fueled this thought which i nursed unconsciously. Did I check with His Spirit that bares witness with mine if I am on track?……………….. To be continued
You call my love a bluff?
Don’t get me wrong okay
You are right to call my love a bluff
Is that truly what it is?
Or is it that you are so used to wrong love that you can’t identify pure love?
Yes, pure love
You are so use to quickies that a wait is just wrong
You are so use to been lied too that the truth is cliché
You are used to games that honest moves you doubt
Your foolhardiness churns me
Do not blame your wrong love on me
You only attracted what you rated yourself to have
You are worth more but what if you do not know so?
What if you keep rating yourself needy and desperate?
How is that my fault?
I can’t let my love be a bluff
I won’t let you convert me
I will walk away and pray
Pray that you heal to identify love
A love that heals
A love that is true
A love that is genuine
A love that seeks out the best and to be the best
I pray you will not bluff true love when next it comes
I love you yet i love me too
Robbing Peter to pay Paul is not me
Personally i love love. So do not get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing. Does that mean we should go about worrying about love and who will love us or who we will love? Well no. Love is seeking (purposefully) not worrying. Seeking to be and do things right and in perspective. Marriage is for eternity and is meant to bring glory to The marriage Creator. This brings me to my 4th Tip Continue reading